Gentlemen's badge

Hello everybody,

In my original idea I wanted to write a post against all the assholes, allow me, who after winning a game refuse to play another game. I believe that the right of having a chance to make up for our mistakes is sacrosanct. I am sure that many of you have experienced my very same frustration after losing, for instance, a winning game just for a stupid mistake or, even worse, for time. And I think that all of you wanted a chance to make things even, but the disrespect of your opponent didn't let you.
In the same way I believe that there are a lot of different disrespectul ways of behaving that are very annoying to us, simple chess amateurs who just wish to play fair games with fair opponents.

However I'm sadly aware that we cannot ban all the players who refuse to rematch or similar trifles otherwise there would be very few players.

Therefore I am here to propose a new "feature" that instead of punishing ill-mannered players will reward the good ones. We could write all together here in the forum a list of behaviours that we agree (with a poll) are very important for the "civil harmony". After that we could award the players who constantly respect those behaviours a "Gentlement's badge" like those awarded for example to "Bullet top 50 player". Simple behaviours (such as the tendency to rematch) could be checked by the site itself, whereas more complex behaviours could be checked by the users themselves or I don't know, using some voting system perhaps.

I know that this "feature" is not very important and there are surely other things, of much more relevance, that you are working on. However I believe that Lichess should distinguish itself from other chess sites not only for the best free analysis and things like that, but also for the community.

Calling everyone who refuses to play a rematch with you an asshole isn't very gentlemanly either...

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This is a troll thread I am pretty sure.

Sometimes people don't play rematches is because they don't have time. They have lives outside of chess too.

Do u have signed a contract over a fixed number of games prior to the match or what gives you the right to insult common people? Where does this ill "right of rematch" stem from? To the contrary I would abandon rematch buttons to preempt conflicts. I recommend quit playing with human beings on the internet as an instant remedy.

(Often I travel by public traffic and there are routes -or connection issues- which allow me to play just a single game)

I pretty much expected similar reactions. First of all I would like to apologize for the strong term that I used and that gave you the excuse to throw my post to the bin straight away. It was very stupid by me.

To answer @Sarg0n and @PatzerGareBear13 I haven't signed any contract of course but I'm not talking about people with connection issues or other things. In a LOT of cases it's obvious that your opponent doesn't want to play a rematch against you because he's afraid to lose or something stupid like that (you can check for example if he plays immediately another game with someone else). I blame it to the rating system of course which makes people greedy like some sort of money. In my opinion this is just not fair. I mean in a game like chess you need to have a rematch.

That said as I later stated in my post we should agree with a poll or something here on the forum to what is bad and what is good. I am not talking only about my problem with people not accepting rematch. It just seems right that among adults we agree on good and bad behaviours and reward the fair players if we can't punish unfair ones. We all spend quite a lot of time playing chess here, otherwise you wouldn't even bother answering to my post, so I think having a good time with a polite opponent is very important.

By the way I searched some related forum post on other sites just to be sure that I haven't gone nuts for being so annoyed for such a stupid thing. I found a bunch of other posts like this on chess.com and even on not chess related forums.

You can't do that offline either. You play one single game, possibly you win or lose "real" points and after that both are "free"/released.

One basic rule in Swiss system is even that you play only once against the same opponent. That's unfair?

Sure, there are discussions about this topic everywhere, true, but the majority doesn't want a somewhat forced rematch option.

How can you compare online chess with over the board chess? Over the board chess tournaments are just different. I mean in a tournament you need a player to play with as many different opponents as possible so that you have a clear perspective on what's going on and who is really playing better (for the standings) and since the time is limited of course there can't be a rematch.

"the majority doesn't want a somewhat forced rematch option" please show me where I ever tried to propose a "forced rematch option", I never mentioned something like this.

Most importantly, for the third time I would like to point out that I am not only talking about this particular issue.
I get it that you don't agree with me on this rematch thing but I would really appreciate if you could at least take the time to read my post carefully and completely.

I don't play the same person twice in a row. That's how I roll. But some people keep harassing me and won't leave me alone. Why???? Whether I won or lost the game doesn't matter, I'm clicking the "new opponent" button and that's what I want. A new opponent. Not the same one over and over until I want to shoot myself. I might accept the rematch but not likely. If I abort the game I get banned. So when it happens I block them and then it's over. That's why I'm in the tournament's cause it's the closest to the Swiss system I can get to. Random opponents.

what if i win vs someone and then I offer a rematch that he refuse?
will he be marked as unfair player? (sorry for my english)